encouragement

What's on Her Mind?​

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• I am EXCITED about the future

• I am  a little NERVOUS about the future

• I want to make sure I EAT HEALTHY for the baby

• I DO NOT FEEL PREPARED at this moment to take on this responsibility 24 X 7

• I thought it might take longer to get pregnant

• I have MIXED EMOTIONS about the changes ahead in my life

• I am filled JOY & HAPPINESS 

• Wondering if the baby's gender will be a BOY or GIRL

• Concerned about a potential CHANGE IN RELATIONSHIPS with parents or in-laws

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Things NOT to Say.... 

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• When is your due date?

• Whoa! That was fast. You guys did not waste any time

• Were you guys even trying?

• You might look a little fat at graduation but at least you'll have the baby after your out of school

• You may have trouble getting hired though

• Is the father excited about the baby?

• Are your parents thrilled about having a grandchild

• How can I help

• Unexpected Pregnancy

  • He (father of the child) is such a jerk for putting you in this situation?

  • If she is considering termination of the pregnancy, avoid making a specific recommendation

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GOOD THINGS to Say... 

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• When offering help, be specific in your activities (Can I help you with X,Y,Z)

• I'm so excited for you! Congratulations! That's wonderful!

• Baby’s are such a blessing

• I would be happy to have a baby shower for you

• Can I help you get a list together for your shower

• I think you will be a great mom or dad

• Being a mother or father is one of the biggest rewards in life

• Being pregnant suits you

• You are glowing

• You are the most beautiful pregnant woman I have seen in a while

• You look fantastic

• Unexpected Pregnancy

  • Avoid expressing personal views if you are unsure how opinions will be received

 

 

SCHEDULE ENCOURAGEMENT activities for Delivery... 

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• WORDS & PHRASES:  Text or Email a Baby Checklist for mother's- Pinterest 

• WORDS & PHRASES:  Text or Email a Quote on the "Keys to Marriage" - Pinterest 

• WORDS & PHRASES:  Send a Greeting Card to say "You will be a Great Mom" - Hallmark

• WORDS & PHRASES:  Text or Email How to Love Your Baby - Pinterest 

• WORDS & PHRASES:  Text or Email information on the best online delivery services for babies 

• AUDIO & VIDEO:  Send Four Soothing Playlists APPLE MUSIC for baby during 9 months of pregnancy 

• AUDIO & VIDEO:  Mozart Music for Post Birth from AMAZON Listening 

• GIFTS & GOODWILL:  Send the book, "What to expect when you are expecting."

• GIFTS & GOODWILL:  Send Flowers at end of Second Trimester - FTD

• GIFTS & GOODWILL:  Send a Toy’s R Us Gift Card instead of money 

• GIFTS & GOODWILL:  Find out the preferred brand of diapers DIAPERS.COM, and send a box each month 

• GIFTS & GOODWILL:  Send Travel cover for car seat from AMAZON  

• EVENTS & EXPERIENCES:  Offer to help assemble nursery items and rearrange furniture 

• EVENTS & EXPERIENCES:  Offer to stop by once a week for the first month 

• EVENTS & EXPERIENCES:  Call the husband to congratulate him 

• EVENTS & EXPERIENCES:  Offer any support or answers to stupid questions 

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